What kind of people will not succeed in life?生活中什么样的人不会成功？

 

获得17.1k好评的回答@J.P. Ribner：

Based upon my own observations and experiences, here are the types of people who typically do not succeed in life:基于我个人的观察和经历，以下是生活中典型的不会取得成功的人：1.People who do not take personal responsibility for themselves or their decisions.不为自己或自己的决定负责的人。2.People who blame other people for their mistakes.因为自己的错误指责别人的人。3.People who believe there is some vast conspiracy to keep them down due to their race, skin color, religion, gender, or other similar identity factors.认为由于他们的种族、肤色、宗教信仰、性别或其他类似的身份因素被人算计而精神不振的人。4.People who normalize the symptoms of generational poverty, i.e., drug and alcohol abuse, violence, etc.把代际贫困的表现正?；娜耍热缥尽⑿锞啤⒈┝Φ?。5.People who are parasitic upon other people.寄生生活的人。6.People who believe that they are somehow owed success without putting in the commensurate amount of work needed to be successful.认为不用付出成功所需的努力就能成功的人。7.People who are easily distracted by partying, going out, etc.很容易被聚会、外出等分心的人。8.People who are too stubborn or proud to learn from their mistakes and make the necessary adjustments.过于固执或自负而不愿意从错误中汲取教训并做出必要调整的人。9.People who are too stubborn or proud to learn from others. This stifles both personal and professional growth.过于固执或自负而不愿意向他人学习的人，这会阻碍个人和职业的发展。10.People who make poor life decisions that have long-lasting consequences, such as getting married/having children before you can properly provide for them, marrying the wrong person, living beyond one’s means, etc.制定有长期影响的贫穷生活计划的人，比如在能负担得起之前就结婚生子、找错结婚对象、入不敷出等。11.People who believe that there is some sort of nobility in poverty. Example: “I might not have much but at least I’m a good person.” This is typically a justificationfor their current life circumstances.以为人可以穷得高贵的人，比如：“我可能没钱，但至少我是个好人?！闭馐堑湫偷脑谖壳吧钭纯鼋票纭?2.People who care more about what other people think of them than they care about their own success. This typically results in self-destructive searching for validation.相较于自己理想中的成功更在乎别人看法的人，这通?；岬贾伦耘笆降匮扒蟊鹑说脑尥?。13.People with past trauma that causes them to engage in self-destructive behavior. In most cases, this type of person will sabotage their own success at pivotal moments in their careers so they can be “in control” of the failure they anticipate they will experience.有产生自虐行为的心理阴影的人。大多数情况下，这种人会在事业关键时刻毁掉自己的成功以便能控制他们预见到的失败。14.People who are unable to believe that they can ever be great and do great things.不能相信自己能成功、能做大事的人。I’m sure there are other reasons but you get the general idea. Success is a mindset. You have to believe you will be successful. Once you can do that, you free yourself up to do the things you need to do to succeed, such as working hard, researching, trying new strategies, etc. Some of the biggest success stories in life were written by people who weren’t any smarter than the average person. The only thing they had was this undying belief that they could do it… and they did.一定还有其他原因，我给出的是普遍情况。成功是一种心态，你要相信自己能成功。一旦你有自信就能放开去做获得成功所需要做的事，比如努力、钻研、尝试新方法等等。谱写生活中最大成功事迹的人并不比普通人更聪明，他们唯一拥有的就是这种不朽的信念：他们能成功，结果他们确实成功了。

 

（翻译：菲菲）

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