How to Flirt With Finesse
如何有策略地暗送秋波？
 

You might dress well, have a cool job, and be blessed with beauty, but flirting is where the real magic of attraction is, especially when it comes to first impressions. In fact, good flirting is often more effective than good looks, and it’s something anybody can learn how to do.

或许你着装美丽、有一份好工作并且天生丽质，但是调情是吸引力的真正魔法，尤其是当涉及到第一印象的时候。实际上，良好的调情技巧总是比美丽的外表更加有效，而且每个人都能学会如何去做。

Make Friendly, Lasting Eye Contact With a Smile

面带微笑，友好持续的眼神交流

Eye contact is pivotal when flirting, and Marin suggests it’s the best way to indicate your interest. It means the difference between a friendly “how-do-ya-do” conversation and a “I’d really like to get to know you” conversation. Whether you’re across the room or already talking, eye contact has been shown to boost feelings of attraction. In one study, published in the Journal of Research and Personality, strangers were asked to stare into the eyes of other strangers. After holding a mutual, friendly gaze for two minutes, most participants reported increased feelings of passionate love toward the stranger.

在调情的时候，眼神交流很重要，而且马林建议称这是表现自己兴趣的最好方法。这种“我很想认识你”的交流与友好的“你好”这种交谈提示是完全不同的。无论你是在经过房间的时候，还是正在交谈的时候，眼神交流能够让你更具有吸引力。刊登在研究与性格杂志上的一项研究中，要求陌生人与其他陌生人进行眼神交流。在彼此盯着看了几分钟之后，开始用友好的眼神看对方，大多数参与者的报告中称他们与陌生人之间的爱意大增。

Marin says the trick to flirtatious eye contact is to maintain your gaze longer than usual. If you spot someone across the way, try to meet their gaze, hold it for a few seconds, and look away. Repeat this a couple times and, if they aren’t giving you weird looks, then make your approach. Be cautious, though. While a kind gaze does wonders, an unbroken, wide-eyed stare is creepy. If you’re worried you’ll go overboard, use the triangle technique and smile. Nothing says “I like you” like a big ol’ smile.

马林说调情的眼神交流的技巧在于要比平常的时候多看对方一点儿时间。如果你发现有人走过来，试着与他们眼神交流，保持几秒钟，然后看向其他地方。这样重复几次之后，如果他们没有对你表现出好奇，那你就试着靠近他们。但是要小心一点儿。尽管友好的注视会让人产生好奇，但是完全睁大眼睛看他人却会令人感到不舒服。如果你担心你的注视有点儿过头了，那就采用三角形技巧并且保持微笑。夸张的微笑并不能显示出“我喜欢你”这一含义。