Today, when the couples get married, they care about whether they need to live with parents. Most couples can’t reach agreement when they come to this issue. It seems that old people need to live with their children to seek for better care. But the fact is not, old people generally do not want live with the young people.

现在，每当一对新人结婚的时候，他们都关心是否需要与父母一起生活。大多数夫妻在这个问题上都无法达成一致。似乎老年人跟孩子住一起就是为了寻求更好的照顾。但事实是，老人们通常不希望和年轻人住在一起。

On the one hand, old people know exactly the gap between the young generation and their generation. The lifestyle will be very different. They get up early and wake up timely, while the young people like to stay up and they tend to make up sleep on weekends. If they live together, the timetable will be interrupted by each other and both can’t live happily.

一方面，老人知道年轻一代和他们这一代之间的差距。生活方式会非常不同。他们早起，醒来的时间也固定，而年轻人喜欢熬夜，喜欢在周末补觉。如果他们生活在一起，彼此的时间表会被打乱，过得也不开心。

On the other hand, it is easy to have argument if people stay together for a long time, no matter how nice they are at the beginning. The new couple will have their problem, while if the old people interfere, then things will be miserable. So it is better to stay off the argument.

另一方面，不管刚开始关系有多好，如果呆在一起的时间长了就很容易有矛盾。新婚夫妇会有他们自己的问题，如果老人干预，那么事情将变得更加不可收拾。所以最好是远离矛盾。

Now most parents choose to live not far away from their children, because staying the small distance brings benefit to both sides.

现在大多数家长选择生活在离他们的孩子不远的地方，因为保持一定的距离给双方带来好处。