时差N小时:被公婆排挤
亲爱的安妮：
My husband's parents come to town every so often,but they never give us information about theirschedule. They do, however, contact other familymembers. My husband thinks it's because they don'tlike me, but I have asked them directly and theyinsist they love us both.
我的公公婆婆经常来到镇上，但他们从来不通知我们。不过，他们会联系其他的亲戚。我丈夫认为这是因为他们不喜欢我，但我直接问过他们，他们坚称很爱我们。
The last time the in-laws were in town, we popped in where they were staying and took foodand gifts. They were friendly enough, but they never said thanks for the gifts we brought. Thenext day, we stayed close to home in case they called, but they never did. However, theymanaged to see other family members.
上次我的公公婆婆来镇上，我们突然出现在他们的住处，并给他们带去食物和礼物。他们对我足够客气，但从来不为我们买的礼物表示感谢。第二天，我们会待在家附近，以防他们打电话过来，但他们从来没打过。不论怎样，他们去见过其他亲戚。
This happens every time they visit and I'm sick of it. My husband always takes their side andsays they are just busy. Frankly, the only time we hear from the in-laws is when they needsomething. I am feeling more resentful as time goes by. What do you suggest? - All AloneHere
每次他们来都是这样，我厌倦了这一切。我丈夫总是站在他们那边，说他们很忙。坦白讲，我们唯一一次接到他们的电话，是因为他们有事需要帮忙。随着时光的流逝，我越来越感到愤恨。你有什么建议吗?——独自一人
Dear All Alone: You need to step back from your involvement. When you next hear your in-laws are coming, tell them they are welcome anytime, but don't change your schedule. If theywant your company, they will call or e-mail. If your husband becomes upset, be sympathetic,but don't place blame. Expect nothing and you'll be less disappointed.
亲爱的独自一人：你需要退一步考虑自己的参与度。当下次你听说公公婆婆要来时，告诉他们你随时欢迎他们来家里，但不要改变你的行程。如果他们想要你的陪伴，他们会打电话或者发邮件告诉你。如果你的丈夫对此感到沮丧，要同情他的感受，但不要加以责怪。因为期望越少，失望越少。
