[00:00.00]Topic 43 Will Your Confidence [00:05.50]Be Affected by External Factors? [00:07.48]Confidence is extremely important [00:10.57]in almost every aspect of our life. [00:12.56]It is said that confidence is often the single ingredient [00:16.19]that distinguishes a successful person [00:18.28]from someone less successful. [00:20.10]Yet many people only govern their behaviors [00:23.47]based on what other people think, [00:25.07]stay in their own comfort zones [00:27.16]fearing failure and so avoiding taking risks, [00:30.37]and oftentimes work hard to cover up mistakes [00:33.83]and pray that they can fix the problem [00:35.81]before anyone wiser. [00:36.84]For those low-confidence people, [00:39.56]they bear in their mind [00:41.17]that some people are more competent, [00:42.56]more beautiful, much wealthier than them, [00:45.19]and hence they are reduced to frustrations. [00:47.33]However, confidence should not be affected [00:50.86]by those differences in terms of appearance, [00:52.57]wealth, and family connections. [00:54.86]Firstly, people can not improve their financial situations [00:59.66]and change their appearances overnight, [01:02.81]they are likely to change their mindset [01:04.89]to become confident. [01:05.90]For those who believe [01:07.46]that confidence is based on wealth, [01:09.19]appearance, and other external factors, [01:11.65]their confidence is measured by external factors. [01:14.82]In line with this belief, [01:16.84]we can assume that only the wealthy, the beautiful, [01:19.74]the handsome and the famous are confident. [01:22.04]I think this is not the case. [01:24.23]In our daily lives, [01:25.89]there are people who earn meager salaries [01:28.45]but still are confident of their futures [01:30.97]who have counted days due to terminal cancers [01:33.75]but are still confident of fulfilling their childhood dreams. [01:36.91]If those people base their confidence in current situations, [01:40.80]they are doomed to live gloomy and sad lives, [01:43.86]for the perception of oneself [01:45.88]has an enormous impact on [01:47.94]what they will do in their daily life. [01:49.71]Therefore, confidence is built [01:52.80]from within instead of external factors. [01:54.63]Secondly, despite that [01:58.32]people always are in lack of something, [02:00.42]they are likely to learn [02:01.70]and build confidence step by step. [02:03.84]No matter how average they are, [02:06.19]they have achieved something in their lives [02:08.06]to date and have strengths [02:09.88]that they are not aware of. [02:11.38]Tragically, human beings are always [02:14.42]in pursuit of what they want, [02:15.67]but neglect what they have possessed. [02:17.70]This also explains why they base their confidence [02:21.07]on external factors. [02:22.35]Because those external factors [02:24.65]only exist in their mind in the near future, [02:27.00]they are not real and solid. [02:28.98]When people determine to set the journey [02:31.45]to build confidence and carry things through [02:34.30]by basing their confidence [02:37.03]on what they have achieved and their strengths, [02:40.01]no one can take it away, [02:41.58]for they are real and solid. [02:43.55]Gradually, confidence is build on [02:46.86]and success is readily available, [02:49.45]which will in return make people more confident. [02:52.65]In sum, confidence is built from within [02:56.17]instead of from external factors. [02:58.14]People can learn to be confident [03:00.37]by appreciating what they have achieved [03:02.33]and their unique strengths. [03:03.77]In this sense, [03:05.21]confidence should not be affected by external factors [03:08.25]such as fame, wealth, power, and etc.

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