True self-love is not selfish pleasure,

真正的自爱并不是指一个人的享乐

but rather the origin of discipline and willpower.

而是自律和意志力的源泉

Self-love is not giving yourself everything you want,

自爱不是把想要的一切都交给自己

but rather giving yourself the things that are good for you.

而是把对自己有好处的东西交给自己

Spending the weekend eating pizza and watching movies can feel great,

把周末的时间花在吃披萨饼和看电影上，你或许会觉得很棒

but that is not self-love.

但这并不是自爱

Self-love is discipline.

自爱是纪律

It says,

它会告诉你

“You may not like this,

现在的你可能不喜欢这样

but the future You will want to start this.”

但未来的你会希望你这样开始走向他

If we simply do whatever we want,

如果我们一味的为所欲为

it is akin to letting a toddler run wild and be spoiled.

就像让一个两三岁的孩子放任自流，败坏心性

The parent of a spoiled toddler gives the kid everything they want,

被宠坏的孩子能从父母那里得到他想要的一切

and the parent believes they are loving the kid,

父母也相信他们是在爱孩子

but their actions are not loving.

但他们的行为却不是真正的爱

The kid needs guidance.

孩子需要管教

The kid is chasing pleasure first,

孩子总是首先追求享乐

and as a consequence,

结果

is not acting in their best long-term interests.

他们不能为了自己的长远利益行事

If a parent guides and directs a toddler ,

如果父母能够指导和指引孩子

and the toddler grows up into a mature, responsible person,

孩子就会成为成熟，具有责任感的成年人

the parent acted in a loving way.

父母的行为才是真正的爱

Self-love is being the second parent to yourself,

爱自己就是成为自己的第二任父母

because we have a tendency to behave like the spoiled toddler at times.

因为我们偶尔会倾向于做出和被宠坏的孩子一样的行为

Self-love is knowing what needs done

自爱既是知道什么是必须做的

and doing it anyway.

并且坚持完成这件事

Self-love brings actions into your life

自爱会让你在生活中做出一些举动

that you don’t regret later.

事后你绝不会后悔

When we allow true self-love to guide our actions,

当我们让真正的自爱指导自己的行动

it naturally increases our willpower to resist temptations

自然而然，我们抵制诱惑的意志力也会增强

that appeal to the spoiled toddler in all of us.

我们内心的小孩时常会受到这些诱惑的影响

Self-love is looking out for yourself,

自爱是在大局之中看到自己

not in a selfish way,

不是顾影自怜

but in a healthy way.

而是用一种更健康有益的方式

Once we develop this discipline ,

一旦我们练就了这种素质

we can use it in all sorts of life areas,

我们就能在生活的方方面面加以运用

like going to bed early,

比如早睡早起

keeping up with physical activities,

经常锻炼

saying no to junk food,

向垃圾食品道别

dedicating time to read and learn,

花时间阅读和学习

and so much more.

还有很多很多

Quell the spoiled toddler ,

让心中的小孩安静下来

become the correct parent of your own mind.

成为你自己心智的明辨对错的家长