[ti:] [ar:] [al:] [by:] [00:02.43]Passage 87. Motherly and Fatherly Love [00:08.33]Motherly love by its very nature is unconditional. [00:15.22]Mother loves the newborn infant because it is her child, [00:19.16]not because the child has fulfilled any specific condition, [00:22.88]or lived up to any specific expectation. [00:25.84]Unconditional love corresponds in one of the deepest longings, [00:31.31]not only of the child, but of every human being; [00:34.81]on the other hand, to be loved because of one’s merit, because one deserves it, always leaves doubt; [00:43.23]maybe I did not please the person whom I want to love me, [00:47.50]maybe this or that—there is always a fear that love could disappear. [00:53.74]Furthermore,“deserved” love easily leaves a bitter feeling that one is not loved for oneself, [01:03.26]that one is loved only because one pleases, [01:06.76]that one is, in the last analysis, not loved at all but used. [01:13.10]No wonder that we all cling to the longing for motherly love, [01:17.69]as children and also as adults. [01:20.43]The relationship to father is quite different. [01:26.56]Mother is the home we come from, she is nature, soil, the ocean; [01:32.14]father does not represent any such natural home. [01:36.30]He has little connection with the child in the first years of its life, [01:40.23]and his importance for the child in this early period cannot be compared with that of mother. [01:46.58]But while father does not represent the natural world, [01:51.07]he represents the other pole of human existence; [01:54.90]the world of thought,of man-made things, of law and order, of discipline, of travel and adventure. [02:02.66]Father is the one who teaches the child, who shows him the road into the world. [02:08.58]Fatherly love is conditional love. [02:12.08]Its principle is “I love you because you fulfill my expectations, [02:17.76]because you do your duty,because you are like me.” [02:21.92]In conditional fatherly love we find, as with unconditional motherly love, [02:28.81]a negative and a positive aspect. [02:32.21]The negative aspect is the very fact that fatherly love has to be deserved, [02:38.33]that it can be lost if one does not do to what is expected. [02:43.25]In the nature of fatherly love lies the fact that obedience becomes the main virtue, [02:50.26]that disobedience is the main sin—and its punishment the withdrawal of fatherly love. [02:57.48]The positive side is equally important. [03:00.86]Since his love is conditional, I can do something to acquire it, I can work for it; [03:07.76]his love is not outside of my control as motherly love is.

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