The LittIe Words That Work Marriage Magic 创造婚姻奇迹的小字眼

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Using terms of endearment like honey or sweetheart from time to time is a small but important way to keep a marriage loving. These terms make the other person feel loved and special.There are some other words that can help make your spouse feel special and aware of how much you love and appreciate him.

“Thank You.”We would not never thank a friend or co-worker for helping us out. But sometimes we forget to thank the person we love most：our spouse.All couples forget now and then to thank each other for all they do.But thanking each other is a good habit to fall into because gratitude is necessary for the growth of love.Knowing that their actions are appreciated makes a couple more giving toward each other, and the more you give to each other the more your love will grow.

“Please.”Please, like thank you, is easy to forget to say, but it too is very important in a relationship. Because it is another way of letting your partner know you don't take him for granted and that his time and effort count.

“You are great.”Do you know that this sentence can make him feel good about himself all day?Now that you know how nice it makes him feel to be complimented, you should try to do it as often as you can. As an added bonus, he will begin paying compliments to you more often.This is not surprising since, experts say, compliments are a two-way street.So the more compliments you give, the more you get.Often couples will think nice things about each other but not verbaIize their thoughts because they're just not in the habit of doing so.But when one of them starts, the other will pick up on the cue and begin doing the same.

“I love you.”in a new way. A small variation such as“I love you more each day”can make a big difference in how you feel about each other.When you say“I love you”the exact same way over and over, your spouse may start to discount it.On the other hand, a fresh phrase can help keep the relationship fresh.For instance, you can express your love for him by saying“I'm so glad you're in my life.”I'm sure he will be really impressed and touched, and you two will feel closer.

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经常用“宝贝”“甜心”之类的亲昵语，是一种让婚姻永葆鲜活的简单但很重要的方法。这些亲昵的词语能让人深切感受到对方的爱意，也能感受到自己在其心中的特殊地位。另外也有一些字眼能让爱人体会到他（她）在你心中的分量，感到你有多么爱他，多么欣赏他。

“谢谢你。”我们总会在朋友或同事帮忙后表示感谢，然而有时候却忘了感谢我们最爱的人——妻子或丈夫。夫妻间时而会忘记彼此道谢，但这是一个良好的习惯，在爱的成长路途中是不可缺少的。只有自己所做的得到了对方的认同和欣赏，我们才会乐意给予更多。彼此给予得越多，爱就会增值越多。

“请”和“谢谢”一样容易被忽略，但这两个字眼在夫妻关系中，也是相当地有分量。因为它也能让你的爱人意识到，你并没有把他所做的事看作理所当然，他所付出的时间和努力是值得的。

“你真好。”你可知道，这句话能让他愉快一整天吗？既然你知道令爱人感受褒奖是很不错的，那么，你就应尽可能地这样对他说。这样做还有一个好处，就是他也会频繁地赞赏你。专家们认为，赞赏是条双向街，所以，夫妻间的这种互赞效应也就不足为奇了。你对爱人称赞得越多，你获得的赞扬也就越多。通常，夫妻彼此都会认为对方有多么多么好，只是没在言语上表达出来，因为没养成这种习惯。但只要其中一方开了口，另一方便会领会其意，如此效法。

“我爱你”的全新表达法。把“我爱你”稍加改动，变成“每天爱你多一点”，能使夫妻的感情生活大有改观。一遍遍地重复“我爱你”，爱人可能就会对此不以为然了。不仅如此，一种新的表达能让夫妻关系时刻都有新鲜感。比如，要表达对他的爱意，你可以这样说：“我真高兴我的生命中有你。”我确信，他定会深深地感动。于是，两颗心更近了。

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核心单词

appreciate[?'pri：?ieit]v.欣赏；感谢，感激

spouse[spauz]n.配偶

bonus['b?un?s]n.奖金；额外津贴；特别补助；额外令人高兴的事

verbaIize['v?：b?laiz]v.以言语表述；唠叨

cue[kju：]n.提示；信号；线索

discount[dis'kaunt]v.不理会；不重视

impress[im'pres]v.给……极深的印象；使感动；使铭记

实用句型

But thanking each other is a good habit to faII into because gratitude is necessary for the growth of Iove.

夫妻间时而会忘记彼此道谢，但这是一个良好的习惯，在爱的成长路途中是不可缺少的。

①动名词thanking在这里做主语。

②fall into形成。类似的表达还有fall off（数量）减少；fall out发生；fall down失败。

翻译练习

1.朋友们偶尔聚会，畅谈学生时代的美好时光。（now and then）

2.有些人常常将谣言信以为真。（take……for granted）

3.像兔和鹿这样的动物，整个冬天都是很活跃的，它们到处寻找食物。（such as）