我已经学会用笑来面对身体上的障碍，以及它所引起的奇怪反应。不过，当你怀疑自我价值，或是无法爱自己原本的样子时，有更好的方法可以克服这些问题——与其执着于内在的痛苦，不如走出去，想办法减轻别人的痛苦，把注意力放在需要帮助的人身上。

I've learned to laugh about my disabilities and the strange responses they provoke, but there is an even better method for overcoming doubts about your self-worth or your inability to love yourself as you are. Instead of dwelling on that pain within, reach out to ease someone else's pain. Put your focus on someone else in need.

例如，去收容所当义工、帮孤儿募款、为地震灾民发起义卖，或是参加慈善性质的健走、骑单车或舞蹈马拉松等活动以募款。你要站起来，走出去。

Volunteer at a soup kitchen. Raise money for orphans. Organize a benefit to help earthquake victims. Find sponsors who'll donate money if you take part in a charity walk, or bike ride, or dance marathon. Rise up and reach out.

当我这么做的时候，发现这可能是打开自己内在的爱之光最好的方式。

When I do that, I discover what is perhaps the best solution for anyone who has failed to turn on the light of love within.

如果你无法解决自己的问题，就去解决别人的吧。毕竟，施比受更有福，不是吗?如果你不爱自己，就把自己送给别人，你一定会对这样做让你觉得自己多有价值而感到十分惊讶。

If you can't resolve your own issues, be the solution for someone else. After all, it's better to give than to receive, right? If you don't love yourself, then give yourself away. If you do that, you'll be amazed at how valuable you feel.

我是怎么知道的?拜托，老兄，看看我，看看我的人生。在你眼中，我像个快乐又满足的人吗?

How do I know that? C'mon, mate, look at me. Look at my life. Do I seem like a happy and fulfilled person to you?

隆鼻无法给你充满喜悦的人生，法拉利不会让你被数百万人景仰。你内在已经拥有值得被爱、被珍惜的东西，现在只要将它们释放并扩大。你不会永远都是完美的，这样很好。人生的目的不是获得完美，而是探索完美。

A nose job won't bring you a life of joy. A Ferrari won't make you admired by millions. You already have what it takes to be loved and valued; it's just a matter of releasing and maximizing all that lies within you. You won't always be perfect, and that's perfectly fine. The idea isn't to attain perfection in your lifetime; it's to seek it.

你想要继续努力、继续成长、继续付出你能付出的一切，如此一来，你就可以在最后回首人生时说：“我已经尽全力了。”

You want to keep striving, keep growing, keep giving all you have to give so that, in the end, you can look back and say, I gave it my best shot.

现在就看着镜子说：“这就是我的样子，我愿意接受挑战，成为最好的自己。”你是美丽的，因为上帝按着他的目的创造了你。而你的挑战在于，要找出那个目的，然后以希望作燃料，用信心驱动，并且尽量运用你的“独你性”(you-niqueness)。

Take a look in the mirror right now and say, "This is who I am, and I accept the challenge of becoming the best I can be." You are beautiful because God created you for His purpose. Your challenge is to find that purpose, fuel it with hope, drive it on faith, and put your you-niqueness to the highest possible use.

要治愈自怜和受害者情结，唯一有效的方法就是爱自己、接纳自己。毒品、酒精和糜烂的性生活只能给人暂时的解放，最后带来的是更大的痛苦。当我将自己视为上帝的孩子，而且是它计划的一部分时，我的生命彻底改变了?；蛐砟悴恍呕剑阕芸梢韵嘈诺降厍蛏献哒庖辉?，肯定有你的价值和目的。

Loving and accepting yourself is the only surefire cure for self-pity and victimhood. Drugs, alcohol, and promiscuity offer only temporary relief, and eventually they bring only more pain. When I came to see myself as a child of God and a part of His plan, my life was forever changed. You may not be a believer in Christ, but you can believe in your value and purpose on this planet.